Dealing with comparisonitis
Can it be helpful?
I had a bit of a wobble this week. Someone posted on LinkedIn that they had achieved 3 things that I really want to achieve and I felt simultaneously sad, jealous, and cross with myself.
And then I had a word with myself.
Because they’d done it by doing the things I said a couple of weeks ago I needed to do. They had goals, and they took steps to meet them.
No magic, no shortcuts. They put the work in.
So I reminded myself that while I might not be where they are now, and I wish I had started earlier, I am taking steps to get there.
And then I logged off, got on with a task to meet one of my goals, and felt better about myself. I used their success to motivate myself.
I don’t know about you, but I constantly feel like I’m running to catch up.
I haven’t got all the pieces in place. There are things I feel I ‘should’ have done by now.
But I can’t change that.
What I can change is what happens next. And that’s on me.
Another friend wrote about how they had noticed when they were spending time on social media, it was usually because they were dodging something that felt overwhelming and distracting themselves from it. I can definitely relate to that.
Lots of these things feel hard and yes, I have noticed that while I’ve got more done over the last couple of weeks, the tasks I’m most nervous about, the ones that need deep work or that take me out of my comfort zone, are the ones still sitting on my list.
I can’t keep doing that.
You’re also going to notice if I’m still writing articles about getting started in a month or two’s time!
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